Woman who has been on 1,000 dates in eight years sends automatic rejection emails to men who don’t meet expectations

A woman who claims to have been on more than 1,000 dates in eight years is “obsessed” with her “fairytale ending” and sends automatic rejection emails when men do not meet her expectations.

Suzan Mutesi, a 38-year-old actor and writer who lives between Sydney and London, was in two serious long-term relationships in her twenties – but has been unlucky in love ever since.

Since hitting 30, she said she has been on more than 1,000 dates and used to go on them whenever she did “not feel like cooking” – with rendezvous so common she has produced an automatic rejection email thanking her suitor and letting them know “it didn’t work out, but it was nice getting to know you”.

She has admitted she “expects the best” from a partner, claiming one ex even gave her an allowance and ensured she had a private car available so she never had to take public transport.

Despite the setbacks and some family members encouraging her to “give up”, Suzan said she remains optimistic, putting as much effort into dating as her career, and hoping 2025 is the year she meets “the one”.

Suzan told PA Real Life: “I love romantic movies because I want the whole fairy tale – I believe in that kind of love.

“I haven’t given up on finding true love and I hope it doesn’t give up on me too.

“If I’m not on a date, on the apps, taking some new photos to update my profile, or watching a rom-com, chances are I will be out with my friends – and conversation will be about our latest dates.

“And if I’m at the gym, I will be working out to a playlist of my favourite love songs.

In her twenties, Suzan had two long-term relationships – she said the first was during her time at university with a man in his thirties.

Suzan described him as “very chivalrous”, explaining how he gave her an allowance and sent a private car for her so she never had to take public transport.

They were together for around four years, but eventually parted ways to focus on their careers.

A few years later, at 27, Suzan entered another relationship, which lasted three years – but she knew “they were not meant to be”.

“I knew love was out there, and I wasn’t going to get it sitting at home in my pyjamas – I had to go out there and get it,” she said.

In her early thirties, she said she was averaging at least three dates a week, and that would go on a dinner date just because she “didn’t feel like cooking”.

Nowadays, she claims she typically goes on at least one date per week.

Suzan uses dating apps like Bumble and Hinge, but is also open to meeting someone in person.

Over the years, Suzan has had her fair share of memorable dates, for both good and bad reasons.

In 2021, she said she went on a promising date that quickly soured when the man invited another woman along, expecting a threesome.

She added: “I had to get out of there very quickly – I don’t know why he thought I’d be up for that.”

The same year, she claimed she went on a romantic picnic in Hyde Park with someone she met on a dating app, which took an unexpected turn.

“The ducks saw the food and came close…he started chasing them and ended up in the water,” she recalled.

“I was so annoyed – it ruined my designer dress. I did not see him again.”

In 2023, she said a man tried to impress her by cooking dinner, but ended up setting the pan on fire.

His ash-covered face and offer to buy pizza instead did little to win her over.

“I was not impressed,” Suzan said.

“The fact he offered me carbs when I was meant to be staying over too.”

“I never like to waste time,” she explained.

“If I don’t feel like the date was right for me, I have an automatic email I send basically saying ‘hey, thank you so much for a great time, I just want to let you know it didn’t work out, but it was nice getting to know you’.”

One of her best dates, however, was in Sydney, where she said she was flown to a private beach and treated to a meal prepared by a personal chef.

They saw each other four more times, but she said he had to leave the country for work.

The longest relationship she has had since turning 30 lasted around three months.

On the whole, her loved ones support her dating adventures, and she believes she has encouraged other friends in their thirties to “get back out there”.

But, some family members have shown a level of “judgment” and joked she should “give up”.

Ultimately, Suzan is looking for “old-school romance” with someone who can be her “partner,” have fun with her, and make her “even happier” than she is on her own.

Although dating sometimes feels like her “full-time job”, she said she feels “disappointed” if she does not have a date in her diary.

She added: “I put as much effort into my dating life as my career, and I think once you put in effort, you will get results.”

Suzan said she hopes to inspire other women in their thirties to embrace dating, encouraging them to accept that everyone’s journey to love is unique – she has even written a book about her experiences, Love Beyond 30s.

Finding true love remains her new year’s resolution for 2025, and she plans to continue dating through apps and putting herself out there in person.

“I want my fairytale ending, I want to meet the one and get married,” Suzan said.

“I’m going to keep going and hope he comes along soon, I’m obsessed with the idea of it!”

To find out more about Suzan’s book, visit: www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Beyond-30s-suzan-Mutesi/dp/B0DJJJD572.